What is a life coach? William Singer of the Varsity Blues scandal titled himself as a life coach. Is that a recognized or accredited title?

Tell me about your mother…

I understand the confusion. People have a pretty good grasp on what a therapist is, what a counselor is, and what a psychiatrist is. But… “life coach”? Come on now… LOL Let’s see if I can help – it’s what I do. I’m a life coach! Or at least, I was. I’m flirting with retirement now. 😉

This is the stereotypical idea of a therapist …

So if that’s what most people think would happen in therapy, here’s my take of what a life coach would do…

Never give up, never surrender!

I’m the one standing with you on the sidelines, in the mud, in the rain, getting my hands dirty.

A therapist etc. typically keeps themselves at a professional distance. They’ve gone to school for years. They’ve got the perspective of a very specific type of training, and they’re seeing your issue(s) through the lens of a very specific school of thought. Typically you’d seek out their help for an extremely complicated, long-term issue.

By comparison, a life coach is a single-serving problem solver. You, the client, don’t really need long-term therapy. For the most part you’ve got things more or less sorted out. But there’s an issue in your life that you keep stumbling over. You’re fine, you’re fine, and then BAM! It hits again and knocks the wind out of your sails. Or you’ve got a massive decision to make and you just need another perspective. Or something came out of the blue and you simply do not have the life experience to cope with it constructively. That’s where the life coach comes in. They use their own life experiences to augment yours. They’ve walked the path you’re about to tread and can guide you through the worst of it.

To offer a specific example, I specialize in kink. I’ve been in the fetish scene since 1984. As I gained experience I began to mentor those who were just starting out. It started with answering basic questions, then letting Doms who had no experience practice on me. But as time went on I discovered something. A lot of people would reach out to me because I seemed nice. They’d tell me things like they really wanted to join the scene, but they were ashamed to do so. They were ashamed of their desire to be submissive, or to dominate people. They had a fetish that really turned them on, but they were so embarrassed by it that they simply couldn’t cope. But a friend heard I was a good person to talk to and…

… and six years ago I went pro. And let me tell you, I love my job. LOVE it. Helping someone go from hating a part of themselves to openly accepting that same part of themselves is wonderful. I’d still be doing it full time, except that I just moved from a very large metro area with a thriving kinky scene to a somewhat smaller metro area. I’m not sure what I’m going to do next. But even if I never see another client it was great while it lasted. 🙂

And that’s what a life coach does! I hope that answers your question. If not, please feel free to drop me a line!

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